Sometimes a person says – “I keep going because I must”, and then quietly adds, “but I don’t know how much longer I can continue this way”. Dr. Daniel Reinhardt explains – willpower is valuable, but when stability is sustained solely through tension, the emotional resource eventually runs out. At MindCareCenter, we help clients learn to rely not only on effort but also on an inner sense of stability, where there is no need to constantly prove resilience.
At MindCareCenter, we often meet people who appear reliable, composed and successful. They know how to stay in control, take responsibility and manage high demands – yet internally feel that stability is possible only when they’re fully concentrated. Such individuals avoid relaxing because they fear that loosening control might lead to collapse. In therapy, the aim is not to take away their strength, but to expand the ways they can remain grounded.
Specialists at MindCareCenter work on exploring how tension becomes associated with safety. We look at the point in life when stability started being perceived as a result of constant effort rather than an internal state. Instead of urging “just relax”, we help clients gradually learn to experience stability as a process – one that is supported not by tightness, but by connection with themselves, personal values and emotional maturity.
Over time, we often observe at MindCareCenter how clients begin to respond not from “I must hold everything together”, but from “I can be stable even if I’m not perfect”. The need to rely solely on willpower decreases, creating space for recovery, pauses and natural movement. This is where true resilience emerges – not the kind held by clenched fists, but the kind grounded in maturity and the ability to care for oneself.
If you notice that you feel stable only when tense, that resting feels risky or that the fear of “losing grip” outweighs your fatigue – this is not a sign of weakness. It signals that your stability is still built primarily on effort. At Mind Care Center, we help clients develop an inner foundation so that stability no longer depends on constant tension, but becomes a natural part of their state.
Previously, we wrote about why some people do not feel like adults even when fulfilling adult roles, and how MindCareCenter helps restore emotional maturity.