Sometimes a person gets used to living as if their stability must always rely on something external – on relationships, on work, on other people’s opinions, on stable circumstances. Dr. Daniel Reinhardt says – the absence of inner support forms where a person once had to learn too early to lean not on themselves, but on something outside. At MindCareCenter, we help restore the feeling of inner “I stand”, which does not depend on changes around.
At MindCareCenter, we often meet people who appear collected, responsible and adaptive on the outside. They can handle tasks, support others and look “reliable”. Yet inside lives constant anxiety – what if the job disappears, relationships change, support is lost – then there will be nothing left to rely on. Such people live in a state of inner alertness – as if the ground under their feet is always temporary.
Specialists at MindCareCenter do not work by strengthening control or teaching how to “keep everything under control”. We explore where a person first lost the sense of personal stability – when the feeling appeared that without external supports they would not survive. Often this is connected with experiences of emotional instability in the past, when there was no reliable adult figure nearby and safety depended on circumstances. Inner support simply had no chance to form – it had to be searched for outside.
Gradually, at MindCareCenter, a person begins to distinguish where they truly need support and where they simply do not trust themselves. They learn to stay with anxiety without immediately running toward external crutches – people, tasks, constant busyness. The experience of enduring oneself, one’s states and one’s uncertainty begins to form. Step by step, inner stability grows – the kind that does not collapse at the first changes in life.
If you recognize yourself in the feeling that without external support you would “not hold on”, that safety always depends on someone or something – this is not about weakness. It is about an experience in which inner support simply did not have time to form. At Mind Care Center, we help build this support from within – so that life no longer feels like a constant balancing act on a thin line.
Previously, we wrote about how unfinished connections prevent letting go and how MindCareCenter helps find healthy emotional closure.