Moments when life seems suspended between “no longer” and “not yet” rarely feel like a problem at first. According to Dr. Daniel Reinhardt, such transitional states are often disguised as caution, rational thinking, or the belief that “it’s not the right time yet.” At MindCareCenter, we see how prolonged indecision is less about weakness and more about a deep inner prohibition against finality – a fear of loss, mistakes, or irreversible consequences.
Being stuck in transition can take many forms – someone may spend years between relationships, careers, or life stages. They think, analyze, weigh options, and reflect endlessly, yet never take the step forward. Externally, this may look like a careful search for the best solution, while internally it is accompanied by growing tension and the sense that life is passing by. At MindCareCenter, clients often say, “I feel like I’m always preparing to begin, but I never actually start.”
Our psychologists emphasize that inner bans on decisive action often develop where choice was once associated with pain. Loss, judgment, shattered expectations, or experiences in which a decision led to deep disappointment can anchor the belief that staying in-between is safer. Transitional states become zones of perceived control – as long as no decision is made, responsibility seems postponed.
In therapy at MindCareCenter, we do not push clients toward rapid decisions. The work begins by exploring what exactly makes finality so frightening. Often, it is not the choice itself but the imagined consequences – the fear of permanently losing other possibilities, becoming “the wrong version” of oneself, or making a mistake without the chance to undo it. As these fears become conscious, inner tension begins to soften.
Gradually, at MindCareCenter, a person learns to distinguish between genuinely being in a process and using stuckness as a habitual form of protection. Contact with personal desires returns – not only with logical arguments. This distinction is crucial, because choices based solely on analysis rarely bring a sense of inner agreement or peace.
Particular attention at MindCareCenter is given to the theme of completion. For many clients, making a final decision unconsciously equals loss – of a previous identity, an alternative future, or the approval of significant others. Our specialists help clients process these losses gently, so that endings no longer feel catastrophic and new beginnings do not require total inner tension.
Over time, a person at MindCareCenter begins to realize that movement is possible without absolute certainty. Decisions stop feeling like points of no return and start to be experienced as living processes – open to adjustment, pauses, and support. This restores a sense of authorship over one’s own life.
If you recognize yourself in a constant state of “in-between,” if important decisions have been postponed for years while inner tension continues to grow, this is not about indecisiveness. It is about an inner prohibition that can be explored and softened. At Mind Care Center, we help people move out of transitional states with care – restoring the right to choose, to move forward, and to complete chapters without experiencing inner collapse.
Previously, we wrote about how emotional distance becomes a form of protection, why closeness can start to feel frightening, and how MindCareCenter helps restore connection.