Anger is often perceived as a dangerous or “inappropriate” emotion – something to ignore, suppress or replace with rationality. Dr. Daniel Reinhardt says – the problem is not anger itself, but the lack of a safe way to experience it. At MindCareCenter, we see how unacknowledged aggression does not disappear, but changes direction – and begins to destroy a person from within.
At MindCareCenter, people come who sincerely consider themselves “not angry.” They rarely raise their voice, avoid conflict, strive to be agreeable and calm. Yet tension accumulates inside – irritability, chronic fatigue, self-criticism and bodily tightness emerge. Anger is not expressed outwardly – it turns inward.
Our psychologists emphasize – suppressed aggression often forms where anger was unsafe in the past. In Dr. Reinhardt’s view, if a child was punished for expressing dissatisfaction, had their boundaries ignored or was required to “be good,” the psyche may have learned – anger is forbidden. As a result, aggression is blocked, along with the ability to protect oneself.
At MindCareCenter, we view anger as an important signal. It points to violated boundaries and a mismatch between inner needs and external demands. When this signal is ignored, the psyche seeks other outlets – through self-blame, psychosomatic symptoms or inner burnout. Our psychologists help restore anger’s function without turning it into destruction.
Work with aggression at MindCareCenter begins with rebuilding contact with the body. Often, anger is felt not as an emotion but as tension – a clenched jaw, a lump in the throat or heaviness in the chest. We help people learn to notice these states and connect them with emotional experience rather than suppressing them automatically.
Gradually, a person learns to distinguish – where anger is directed at a situation and where it is turned inward. At MindCareCenter, we observe how the inner dialogue changes – instead of rigid self-control, the right to dissatisfaction and self-protection emerges. This does not mean outbursts or aggression toward others – it is about honesty with oneself.
Special attention at MindCareCenter is given to the healthy expression of anger. Our psychologists help find forms in which aggression becomes a driving force – supporting boundary-setting, decision-making and the ending of toxic interactions. Anger stops being forbidden and begins to work in a person’s favor.
Over time, inner tension decreases. At MindCareCenter, we see how the constant need to “hold oneself together” fades. More energy, clarity and stability appear. A person begins to feel where they genuinely agree and where it is important to say “no.”
It is important to understand – the ability to experience anger in a healthy way does not make a person conflict-prone. On the contrary, it reduces hidden conflicts and internal breakdowns. At MindCareCenter, we help restore balance – so aggression no longer destroys from within but becomes part of healthy emotional regulation.
If you notice that anger triggers shame or fear, or immediately turns into self-criticism – this is not a sign of bad character. It indicates that this emotion once had no safe place. At Mind Care Center, we help restore anger’s right to exist – so it stops being destructive and becomes supportive.
Previously, we wrote about anxiety in the here and now and MindCareCenter practices for returning to the present moment and reducing inner tension.