Envy often appears not as anger toward another person, but as a quiet inner comparison – “something is wrong with me.” Dr. Daniel Reinhardt says – envy is rarely about wanting to take something away, more often it points to an unrecognized inner need. At MindCareCenter, we help people see this feeling not as a reason for shame, but as an important signal showing where connection with personal desires and self-worth has been lost.
At MindCareCenter, we often meet people who forbid themselves to feel envy. They consider this emotion “bad”, unworthy, destructive. Instead of acknowledging it, a person begins to feel ashamed of themselves – they devalue their own experiences, suppress inner pain and pretend that they “don’t care”. But envy does not disappear – it goes deeper and turns into tension, irritability and doubts about one’s own significance.
Specialists at MindCareCenter work with envy not as something shameful, but as an indicator of inner lack. We explore what exactly triggers this feeling, what the person is truly missing and at what point they began comparing themselves to others instead of relying on their own uniqueness. Often behind envy stands a ban on personal desires, a fear of being visible, a feeling of “I’m not allowed the same”. When this becomes visible, the feeling stops being destructive.
Gradually, at MindCareCenter, a person learns to relate to their reactions differently. They begin to notice – envy does not speak of their badness, it speaks of an unmet need inside, unrealized potential, a dream that once lacked permission to exist. And instead of self-accusation, interest toward oneself appears – what matters to me, what I want, where I truly want to move.
If you notice that comparing yourself to others causes pain, inner tension or a sense of personal “lack” – this is not about weakness. It is about a part inside that wants to be heard. At Mind Care Center, we help turn envy from a source of shame into a point of growth – a place where an honest conversation with yourself begins and movement toward your own life starts, not toward someone else’s standards.
Previously, we wrote about how to stop living in the “I’ll be happy later” mode and restore support in the present.